STAY

· Relationships Book 1 · Love Across Borders Publishing
6 reviews
Ebook
151
Pages
Tools
Eligible

About this ebook

Love is not found. It is made. This is the case for the most countercultural idea left. STAY makes an argument almost no one is making anymore: that love is not discovered ready-made but built, on purpose, by choosing one person and staying. It is part manifesto and part meditation, and it runs directly against a culture engineered to keep you certain someone better is one more swipe away. Drawing on a life across roughly 100 countries and years spent inside the very platforms designed to keep us restless, it lands on a plain, unsentimental claim: the whole of love is the willingness to remain, and remaining is a skill, not a feeling. It treats commitment not as a cage but as the only ground deep enough for anything to grow. It is romantic without being naive and rigorous without being cold, the rare book about love that respects your intelligence while it works on your heart. It pairs with its companion, Unmatched: The Case for Illiquid Love in a Frictionless Age, and stands entirely on its own. It is the argument you wish someone had made to you sooner, and the one you will want to press on anyone about to give up too early. For readers of smart nonfiction on love and attention, and anyone tired of being told the next swipe is the answer. Read it with someone you are deciding about. Then decide.
Love is not found. It is made. This is the case for the most countercultural idea left. STAY makes an argument almost no one is making anymore: that love is not discovered ready-made but built, on purpose, by choosing one person and staying. It is part manifesto and part meditation, and it runs d...

Discover more

Ratings and reviews

6 reviews
Blazers
August 15, 2026
STAY makes a persuasive case for commitment without confusing endurance with passivity. Its interest is in the knowledge two people build that no new match can instantly reproduce: repaired arguments, private jokes, remembered versions of one another, trust earned in unglamorous increments. The book understands that staying is meaningful only when it remains an active choice. Warm, unsentimental, and unexpectedly moving.
Did you find this helpful?
Byron C
August 16, 2026
The book is interested in what romance looks like after novelty stops doing the work. Memory, repair, familiarity, accumulated trust, small disappointments, private humor. these become the real materials of intimacy. I liked that staying is never praised merely because it lasts. Duration matters only when presence remains chosen. That distinction gives the book its warmth and intelligence. Love emerges as something renewed through attention, not preserved by inertia.
Did you find this helpful?
Turkish Drive
September 21, 2026
STAY is romantic in a way that feels earned. It cares less about the first rush than what happens after two people accumulate history: repairs, private jokes, disappointments, remembered fears, routines, and knowledge only time can provide. The book never confuses duration with devotion. Staying matters because it is chosen again. That touched me. It made lasting love feel not less passionate than novelty, but deeper because it knows what it is choosing.
Did you find this helpful?

About the author

Shaun J Apple is an American author, poet, and publisher whose work draws on a life shaped by travel, family, online communities, illness, and change. For more than twenty-five years, he has traveled through nearly one hundred countries, built online communities that reached millions, worked in internet harm reduction, raised a family across continents, and continued creating through Crohn’s disease, PTSD, retinal detachments, and partial vision loss. He founded r/trees and r/gonewild and helped administer Bluelight, one of the internet’s largest harm-reduction communities. His work spans memoir, poetry, philosophy, relationships, politics, travel, humor, and children’s literature, united by a conviction that experience matters, connection is worth protecting, and nobody is disposable. He publishes through Love Across Borders Publishing, the independent house he founded to create a lasting literary record from an impermanent life.
Shaun J Apple is an American author, poet, and publisher whose work draws on a life shaped by travel, family, online communities, illness, and change. For more than twenty-five years, he has traveled through nearly one hundred countries, built online communities that reached millions, worked in i...

Rate this ebook

Tell us what you think.

Reading information

Smartphones and tablets
Install the Google Play Books app for Android and iPad/iPhone. It syncs automatically with your account and allows you to read online or offline wherever you are.
Laptops and computers
You can listen to audiobooks purchased on Google Play using your computer's web browser.
eReaders and other devices
To read on e-ink devices like Kobo eReaders, you'll need to download a file and transfer it to your device. Follow the detailed Help Center instructions to transfer the files to supported eReaders.